One of the best parenting tips I’ve ever heard is “just wait”.
When they’re fussy…just wait. Really listen, pay attention to them. Look for the reason why. Are they tired, hungry, need to connect? Then you can take care of the need. When you rush, you don’t always notice the reason why they’re doing what they’re doing.
When it looks like they need some help with a problem…just wait. They will either amaze you with their problem solving skills or let you know when they need help. When you rush in, you take away the joy of them figuring it out on their own.
When they are stuttering over their words and taking forever to tell you their story…just wait. They will get it out and appreciate that you didn’t interrupt them. In the future they will be more likely to talk to you.
When you’re ready for them to be potty trained..just wait. They will show signs when they’re ready, and it will be so much easier on both of you.
When they’re busy playing and you want them to move onto something else…just wait. Let them finish their work and they will be more likely to comply.
As they grow, and they struggle with sharing with friends…just wait. They might show you their awesome negotiation skills.
Just wait. Be patient.
It’s so simple to understand, yet so hard to do.
But, if you just wait, slow down, and pay attention, your children will amaze you.
Please read this post from Janet Lansbury to read more about the concept of waiting.