“Oh my gosh! Stop touching things! Stop! Just Stop!”
That was me, yesterday, in the public bathroom with my boys. They are 2 and 5 and they just had the need to touch every grimy surface in our park’s bathroom.
With every touch of the toilet paper holder or walls, shivers went down my back. I could sense the invisible germs attaching themselves to their hands.
I wanted to scream “JUST DON’T TOUCH ANYTHING!!!”
As soon as I was able to push us out of the germ infested place, and hand sanitizer was quickly rubbed on their hands, the guilt started to take over. I realized that I totally lost my cool over something really small.
So, I went over to my Stop Yelling Group and asked them “What’s the most ridiculous reason why you have yelled at your kids?”
The responses were hilariously wonderful:
- For chewing loudly…no joke. I flipped out over him chewing Cheetos too loud
- “‘Hashtag Don’t be a Hater’ is not an appropriate way to talk to your mother.”
- Shames me to say – but dropping candy canes – they wanted to bring candy canes to their dance teacher and they kept dropping them on the ground.
- “No! Cereal does not go in your shoes!”
- Smacking his lips together after every word then use “like” every 3 seconds
- “Stop licking the baby”
- When I’m trying to reverse the car, I’m so bad at it !!
- Being a human jungle gym can only last so long before I just SNAP.
- My biggest pet peeve is my son messing up my made bed, so silly but I get so angry!
- We have a pet pig. I have roared “Stop riding the pig” about 100 times today.
- “Please wait until your COMPLETELY finished peeing before getting off the toilet!!!”
- “Please stop asking me to look at things, I’m DRIVING!”
- Waiting…waiting…waiting for Mr 2 to hurry up and poo.
- They do nothing wrong but be kids and if they get loud I get yelly. Really I have no rhyme or reason.
ALL parents get angry and frustrated at our kids, even over small things, and sometimes we yell.
We yell for lots of different reasons.
We yell because we worry.
We yell because our kids behavior triggers our anger.
We yell because we get sensory overload (too much touching/noise)
We yell because we are bored, tired, overwhelmed, stressed, etc.
We yell because we just can’t do it all.
We yell for so many reasons, I can’t even begin to name them all.
Hey, anger happens. Anger is a normal, human emotion that we all feel. And unfortunately, as parents, we can sometimes take our anger out on our kids.
Sometimes it’s because we are maxed out, other times it’s just that their behaviors are annoying and irritating.
If you’re tired of yelling over ridiculous things, then here’s two resources that can help.
This is a FREE handout that has 50 proven tips that can help you find calm and not yell when your kids drive you bonkers.
I took what I know as a Mental Health Therapist and put all my best tips into one handout just for you!
Some of them are fun: “have a tickle fight” or “sing a sound loudly”
Others are more relaxing: “Put on calming music” or “make a calm down jar”
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This is my 4 week eCourse that’s built just for parents who want to stop the yelling and build happier homes with their children.
This course has helped hundreds of women so far. One MAM Alum has this to say:
“This course allowed me to see all the amazing things I am doing as a mother while enabling me to take charge of my anger and yelling in a positive way with the support of other great moms just like me.”
It would cost you hundreds of dollars for a counselor or Anger Management class, but you still wouldn’t get the daily support you get from this course and the private support group.
This course is guilt-free, judgement-free, and built just for busy parents like you, and I promise that it will transform your life.
With these tools, I know that you won’t be yelling at such ridiculous things anymore.