3 years ago I took the challenge to stop yelling at my kids. I was in a Mom Funk and desperately needed to change some things about my life so I could do and be better for my family.
Am I perfect? Hardly.
I still get upset. I still raise my voice from time to time. I get sad and angry. I am human after all.
But I’ve been able to get to the point that I don’t have to have my yellow hearts posted around my house, my 50 Calm Down Tips no longer hang on my walls, and I don’t need near as many Mommy Breaks as I used to.
I’m living a more grateful, fulfilled life and I can’t remember the last time I turned into a big green Hulk Mom, and that feels great.
I may not need all my tools anymore, but one thing that I continue to use to help me stay on track is my cell phone. It’s pretty much always with me so I’ve used it to help me on my journey.
My guess that, if you’re like me, you’re cell phone is usually around. So why not use your phone to help you stop yelling?
Here’s how I do it.
I already use timers for everything from giving the boys their five-minute warning that it’s time to leave the playground to reminding myself to pick them up from their friend’s house. Shoot, I even use a timer when my son asks me to play with him.
So why not add a reminder to stay calm when I know a certain time of day is chaotic? Being able to feel the vibration or hear the “Be-do, Be-do” Minion sound is a helpful reminder that things could get stressful.
I learned this trick from Erica at What Do We Do All Day, and it’s brilliant!
The Forest App
One of my biggest triggers is being interrupted while I’m using my phone.
Nothing sends me over the edge more than a child needing my attention while I’m replying to someone on my phone. I know…I know…que the Mom Guilt.
To help me with this trigger, I’ve started using the Forrest App on my phone.
The Forrest App plays this fun game with me. It plants a seed in my virtual forest and the seed will grow into a tree in 30 minutes.
However, if I pick up my phone and exit out of the app before the tree grows, it dies.
It feels like I’m playing a game of wills with myself. I want a lush green forest of trees, so I try really hard not to pick up my phone before my time is up. It’s amazing how well this works!
Deep Breathing Apps
A few members of my Stop Yelling Group said that they use deep breathing and meditation apps on their phone that help them stay cool and calm when life gets stressful.
I’m a big believer in both deep breathing and meditation, but I hadn’t thought of using my phone to help guide me in my practice…duh!
So, I downloaded one of the apps they recommended and holy smokes, it’s awesome!
I practice my deep breathing during times when I’m relaxed and able to practice, then it’s easier for me to use the same techniques when I find myself getting angry. Try it out, it’s awesome.
Okay, now pick up your phone and start installing some apps!
More reads for you:
- The Secret to Being A Happy Mom
- 5 Myths About Yelling At Kids
- 5 Books That Will Help You Rock at Parenting